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The 5 Disciplines of Love

Posted by: Team Tony

Relationships are one of life’s greatest sources of joy, but they can also be a tremendous source of pain. When you decide to share your life with someone, you invite them in to take in all the good and all the bad, and you agree to accept their triumphs and shortcomings as well.

Whether you’re in a loving, committed relationship or you’re single and searching for that special someone, you’re looking for more: More passion, more excitement, more love. Take your love life to the next level by attending Date With Destiny. The immersive six-day event will help you learn more about who you are and identify who it is you want to become. The multi-day experience will connect you to your ultimate purpose and reinvigorate all areas of your life, including your relationship.

One of the things you’ll learn at Date With Destiny is the concept of the five disciplines of love. Regardless of your current relationship status, you can use these principles to not only feel more fulfilled with yourself, but you’ll be able to bring a whole lot more to the table when you are with a beloved partner.

1. The Discipline of Unconditional Love & Compassion

At Date With Destiny you’ll ask yourself if you’re guilty of focusing too much on yourself during a relationship. Have you been making things all about you and your needs instead of thinking about your partner? This behavior won’t help you to create a healthy relationship. Instead, always put your lover first — it’s not about you! When you fully develop the skill of heartfelt understanding, you become conscious of your partner’s inner life. Rather than being an observer and critic, you feel what they feel and you will discover the deepest pleasure in your relationship — sexual and otherwise.

2. The Discipline of Absolute Courage & Vulnerability

It’s easy to build walls to try to protect yourself. We do this all the time because we’re afraid of getting hurt in love. By withholding your love out of fear, you’re inflicting pain on your partner and creating doubt about your bond. Love no matter what and commit to absolute truth. Be present for your lover even during the most painful situations. Don’t just be physically present, be fully present — give your lover your undivided focus. Any time you lose trust, interest or commitment to your partner, you drift closer to behaviors of criticism and rejection. Stay connected! Cultivate your commitment the way you would a precious flower. This requires time and attention, but your relationship will flourish no matter what your life circumstances may be. Date With Destiny offers practical solutions that will help you stay engaged and open in your relationship.

3. The Discipline of Knowing the Truth

Every couple fights; it’s inevitable. But the couples that are successful in creating long term joy and commitment know one crucial thing: It’s a no-blame game. There’s an art to expressing mild upset without creating bigger problems. When you let something bother you, your partner will feel blamed. However, when something goes wrong, you must express yourself openly, and from the heart. It’s crucial you set the context carefully for anything you share. Remember to use phrases that avoid blame. If problems arise in your relationship, it’s important to remember there are two people involved in creating them. You’ll learn how to reframe how you view arguments at Date With Destiny, recognizing that you are in charge of your emotions and can reshape how you discuss conflict with your partner.

4. The Discipline of Telling Yourself the Truth

Commit to moment-to-moment awareness of the impact of your state. If the basis of trust is confidence in your partner, then you must begin with confidence in yourself. Without it, you cannot induce lasting trust in others. When you can be yourself, others will perceive that and build trust in you. Hold true to the generosity of your highest intentions. Date With Destiny is all about finding your ultimate purpose in life, and creating a plan to achieve it. The foundation of this is embracing your authenticity — what do you want? This question applies to all aspects of your life, including your career, health, finances and your relationship. You can’t achieve success in any of these realms without honoring who you really are and staying committed to your values.

5. The Discipline of Giving Freedom

The power of forgiving, forgetting and flooding. Why drag along the baggage of past mistakes? Whenever we have painful experiences, we can either learn from them or use them to punish ourselves or others. People often blame their partners for past misdeeds or hold old grudges against them. If you want passion, set your partner free. If you’re committed to making your relationship work, then learn how to forgive and forget. See the mistake from their perspective. Consciously harness the good in life to bring greater pleasure and intimacy. Once you’re able to move past old mistakes, learn to flood yourself with all the good moments of your relationship. Sure, your partner may have done something to hurt you in the past, but let yourself focus on all the moments of beauty, love and gratitude that have also been present throughout the relationship. By rewriting your story to focus on the good instead of the bad while attending Date With Destiny, you’ll be one step closer to creating your ideal relationship.

Neither you or your partner are perfect, but if you’re committed to one another, you can create your ideal relationship. At Date With Destiny, you’ll learn to incorporate the five disciplines of love and other strategies into your relationship to ignite passion and create joy. Sign up today and start working to create the life, and love, you’ve always imagined.

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