Our desire to be perfect is what prevents us from being our true selves.
When actress and dancer, Julianne Hough, attended Date with Destiny, she was afraid to be vulnerable. She prided herself on not showing emotion — on being strong. The story she told herself was that to be strong, she had to be perfect; She needed to be successful and she couldn’t ever cry. As a result, Julianne believed she would never be loved.
She spent her entire life giving love, but unable to receive it. In order to receive real love, you have to be yourself. What Julianne discovered was that her true self, was full of emotion, honestly, and vulnerability — qualities she had closed off her entire life. Date with Destiny gave her the freedom to find herself and in return, open herself up to unconditional love.
Julianne returned to Date with Destiny a year later wanting to reinforce everything she learned. She now knew she could give and receive an infinite amount of love — and she wanted to see what else she could do.
Watch the video below to hear more about Julianne’s experience.
For some of us, it’s not about finding yourself. Many of us know who we are, and have been really successful in life. However, as Tony tells is – the science of achievement does not equal the art of fulfillment. We need both to find true happiness.
Are you already succeeding, but still not feeling fulfilled?
That’s what brought Derek Hough to Date with Destiny. A successful performer with two-time Primetime Emmy Award wins for Outstanding Choreography, Derek had achieved so many of his goals before he was 30. Despite this, he couldn’t find any fulfillment in his life. At the age of 15, Derek had attended UPW and remembered how unstoppable he felt after that event. He realized how, 15 years later, the core concepts Tony taught still guided every area of his life. He wanted to discover that same drive and sense of accomplishment he felt years ago.
At Date with Destiny, Derek discovered why his life lacked fulfillment. He was looking for it in external situations, in his career and relationships, instead of looking for it in himself. Tony helped him understand that everything he needed was within him — that fulfillment in your career and relationships would only come after he found fulfillment within himself. He realized he didn’t need to achieve something in order to feel worthy or significant. He didn’t need to receive love in order to give it.
To hear more about Derek’s journey to find fulfillment, watch the video below.