What’s your biggest goal, and why haven’t you accomplished it yet? For many people, the answer is simple — fear. Fear is the biggest limiting factor preventing you from making the decisions about what you really want. Fear causes us to make excuses and distracts us – but it doesn’t have to.
While it’s easy to come up with reasons as to why you’re not accomplishing the things you’re capable of, start to see fear as your motivation – not your excuse. Assign the fear to the goal as the cost of what would happen if you do not achieve it. Because the real fear is living a life where you’ve settled and compromised what you really wanted.
Tony Robbins has helped millions of people stop living in fear and start creating lives they love. Learn to recognize your fear and overcome it to help make the key decisions to get you on the path toward the life you desire with these five simple steps.
We all have wishes, but what does the life you desire and deserve look like? Is it just a “someday, maybe” plan or do you see it as something you’re working towards – something that is attainable and you’re willing to commit to? The first step in conquering fear is identifying whether or not your goal is a “must.” Will you not be fulfilled if you don’t accomplish this?
Should you accomplish this goal, will it provide you with a greater sense of freedom to pursue what you love? Are you in it for the long haul because you think it will lead to better financial stability? Identify if your outcome is a “must” and think deeply about why you want to achieve it. Once you feel that your goal is essential, the fear of not trying at all eclipses the fear of failure — that’s when you’ll be motivated to act.
When you’re afraid, you’ll do anything to put off working toward your true purpose.
This results in countless excuses. You’re too tired. You don’t have enough time. Your idea is not that great anyway — the list could go on forever. Ask yourself, is there any truth to these statements, or are you constructing excuses to avoid potential failure? Making excuses is a lot easier than putting in the time and effort to become the person you want to be, but it will ultimately leave you feeling unfulfilled.
Recognize when you are using excuses and figure out how to overcome them. Too tired? Adjust your schedule so you can get a better night’s sleep. Not enough time? Assess your priorities and find out where you can make time. And the next time an excuse comes to you, make the decision to not give into the little voice telling you “No,” because it won’t help you grow in the long run.
Fear has a tendency to make us feel like we’re incapable of progressing – it holds us back. But the message you need to tell yourself is that it’s not about achieving something and being perfect every step of the way. It’s about getting comfortable with what you don’t know and continuing anyway — this is the foundation of a growth mindset.
As Tony says, “No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow your progress, you’re still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying.” As you work toward conquering your fear, realize that there will be lots of trials and tribulations along the way. As soon as you’ve accepted that the path to success includes growth and change, you’ll be one step closer to attaining your goals.
Tony Robbins says that, “The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you’re in control of your life. If you don’t, life controls you.” This same philosophy can be applied to overcoming fear. If you’re not understanding how to take painful experiences and turn them into opportunities for growth, you’re simply not paying attention. Everyone experiences hardships in life. It doesn’t matter if you have had personal or professional setbacks — what matters is the lesson you take from those experiences and how you apply it to your future. Instead of letting pain and fear dictate your decisions, actively choose to learn from those painful moments to be in control of your own life.
What’s the number one fear people have when it comes to accomplishing their goals? That they’ll fail. If you accept from the onset that failure is an inevitable part of success, you’ll be less afraid of it. Failure can provide you with valuable learning experiences that will positively impact your future strategies.
From the most successful business people in the world to those just starting out on their personal journey, everyone fails. Recognize that although our society doesn’t always talk about failure, every single person has encountered failure on their path to greatness. The quicker you realize your fear of failure is preventing you from making the decision to accomplish your dreams, the sooner you’ll be able to accept the possibility of failing and move on.
There isn’t a person on earth who hasn’t been affected by fear at one point or another. But it’s how you decide to respond to fear that sets you apart. Work toward overcoming fear by identifying the “musts” in your life, recognizing the excuses you use, adopting a growth mindset, learning that pain can bring valuable insight and knowing that failure is a necessary part of any journey.
Use these tactics to overcome fear in your life, and learn more about tackling fear head-on at one of Tony Robbins’ Unleash the Power Within events. Unleash the Power Within was designed to help you break down barriers, like fear, to unleash the true power inside yourself. Secure your seat today and start working toward the life you’ve always imagined.