How taking control of your strategy, story and state can fuel lasting change
We’ve all had some area in our life that we said we are going to change. Whether it’s our relationship, our business, finances, career, health — we all have something that we want to take to the next level, but for one reason or another, we just never made it happen. Maybe we pulled back too soon, or didn’t follow through. Maybe we made an excuse or even sabotaged it before we had a chance to start. Whatever the reason, we just couldn’t break through.
In this episode of the Tony Robbins Podcast, Tony delves into the three key components to creating a breakthrough: strategy, story and state. The way you approach a goal, your beliefs about your life, and your mental game form the foundation for any success or failure. But by learning how to take control of these forces, you can take massive action and can create the quality of life that you’ve always wanted.
[02:10] What makes the difference in the quality of people’s lives
[03:00] It’s more than luck
[03:30] The single most important key to success – hunger
[05:00] The story of Oprah
[07:30] Do not buy into a limiting story
[08:30] Stop blaming external forces and change your own story
[09:00] People develop stories to justify why they failed
[09:50] Stories protect us from pain, but they also imprison us
[10:50] Al Gore’s story
[11:30] The difference between resources and resourcefulness
[12:00] The ultimate resource is resourcefulness
[14:30] If you can find the hunger inside, anything is possible
[15:00] Courage means you’re afraid but you do it anyway
[15:30] What you’re capable is amazing, what most people will do is disappointing
[15:50] The three keys to a breakthrough
[16:30] The wrong strategy will guarantee failure
[17:40] A new way to do something can change everything
[18:20] Think of a strategy like a recipe – you will get the same results every time
[19:00] The problem is never a lack of strategy
[20:00] You have to do the right thing at the right time
[20:40] Always become aware of the environment in which you are working
[21:30] The second key is your story
[22:30] Stories kill your hunger and your drive
[22:50] Getting out of your pain also takes away your drive
[24:10] Your story may be true, but it stays the same because of your decisions
[24:50] The most important element is the right state
[25:00] Your state determines how you think and feel
[26:30] If you do what you did in the beginning of the relationship, there won’t be an end
[27:20] Story will sustain the problem, state can change everything the fastest
[27:40] Strategy has the power to take a business to an entirely new level of profitability
[28:30] Ignorance can be poverty and pain
[28:45] Story and state allow you to apply the strategy
[29:00] Decisions, not conditions determine your destiny
[30:20] Your first decision is what to focus on
[30:30] Whatever you focus on is what you’re going to feel
[30:55] Most of us let our surroundings control our focus
[33:00] Everyone has a pattern of focus
[33:10] Do you tend to focus on what you can control or what you can’t control?
[33:40] Do you tend to focus on what you have or what’s missing?
[34:30] Do you tend to focus on the future, the present or the past?
[35:50] Become aware of your patterns so you can make the shift
[36:10] Once you focus on something, give it a meaning
[36:20] Is your issue a problem or a challenge, or even a gift?
[37:00] Is this the end or the beginning?
[38:00] New belief systems can propel you to new heights
[38:30] The last decision is deciding what to do
[39:00] Your decisions are going to be affected by the emotions you are feeling
Empowering beliefs to live by – Your beliefs, both the positive and the negative, have the power to carve out the path that is your life.
How to raise your standards – When you raise your standards and turn “should” into “must,” you are making an inner shift to take control over the quality of your life.
Cultivating positive emotions – The way to ensure a healthy, happy life is to plant seeds of love, warmth and appreciation.