Coaching
How to Change Your Mindset: Personal Transformation
Learn how to change your mindset to find the life you’ve always wanted
What would you do if you knew you could achieve success just by learning how to change your mindset? That’s what Josh Iris learned after working with a Results Coach. As the president of an electric motor company, Josh was doing pretty well balancing his work responsibilities with his personal life. But he knew there was more out there for him.
Sound familiar? Whether you’ve reached a plateau, struggle to find inspiration for your goals, or feel stuck in a cycle of negativity, learning how to change your mindset can completely transform your career, relationships and entire life.
WHAT IS A MINDSET?
Your mindset is your set of beliefs, values and attitudes about yourself and the world around you. These beliefs shape how you experience the world: Is life happening to you or is it happening for you? Do you feel like your life is within your control or destined to be a certain way? Do you value personal growth or are you content to stay in your comfort zone?
You’ve probably heard about someone who gets stuck repeating the same patterns, or having an old-fashioned set of beliefs. Perhaps you have been told you’re a pessimist – or an optimist.
These are all different types of mindsets that form based on our past experiences. The good news is you have the power to change your mindset.
MINDSET SHIFTS FOR AN EXTRAORDINARY LIFE
Changing or shifting your mindset takes some practice, but it’s certainly possible for anyone. In fact, the ability to change your mindset is a skill that’s shared among every highly successful person.
Life requires us to be agile. Part of that is being open to change – change in your environment and change in yourself. But it all starts with mindset.
There are many ways to shift your mindset that can bring you a new level of success or improve the quality of your life. Below are a few examples:
EMOTIONAL WEAKNESS TO EMOTIONAL CONTROL
Successful people don’t let negative emotions, experiences and events beyond their control affect their state of mind. The truth is, your beliefs create your world, and you are in control of your beliefs. You have the power to take charge of your emotions, your mindset and your life.
NEGATIVE THINKING TO “POSITIVE” THINKING
To be clear, “positive” thinking does not mean feeling happy all the time – it’s normal to feel a range of emotions. Positive thinking is about finding the meaning in life and spending less time “stuck” in the uncomfortable emotions.
Positive thinking is associated with greater happiness, decreased anxiety and improved physical health – all of which can help you achieve your goals. One study even found that a positive outlook leads to success. The theory is that positive people are more likely to form connections, which helps them build rapport, form better relationships, receive opportunities and be more open to taking them.
FIXED MINDSET TO GROWTH MINDSET
If you maintain a fixed mindset, that means your identity is fixed – it implies that you can’t improve or grow. You’re just stuck the way you are.
With a growth mindset, you believe that you’ll get better and your skills will grow when you put in work. You believe that you can develop new skills, improve your relationships and grow as a person. You look at challenges as opportunities, not obstacles.
EXPECTATIONS TO APPRECIATION
Much of the frustration and disappointment in life can be avoided when you trade your expectations for appreciation. When you appreciate the abundance of what you have instead of always expecting more – from the universe, others and yourself – you’re able to be present in your life and enjoy it to the fullest.
BIG CHANGES TO SMALL ADJUSTMENTS
To shift your mindset, try not to look at life as an all-or-nothing situation. Oftentimes changing your mindset occurs in small increments.
For instance, Tony teaches the two-millimeter rule. Applied to mindset, it says that all you need to change your mindset is the smallest,two-millimeter shift in the way you see the world. The same can be said for athletes developing a skill. One small shift in their timing or technique can lead to making the goal and winning the entire game.
5 STRATEGIES TO CHANGE YOUR MINDSET
Revisiting Josh’s story above, his Tony Robbins Results Coach empowered him to reach the next level in his professional and personal life by helping Josh view his struggle from a new perspective that challenged his old mindset.
Once his perspective on the issue changed, he was also able to apply what coaching taught him about changing his psychology. The truth is, his Results Coach added more value in 2 sessions than in years with other coaches. Josh used to look at things from a place of fear, but with his new perspective, he realized his fears were actually massive opportunities to scale his business and improve his personal life.
You, too, can change your mindset and achieve results similar to Josh’s. Here are five steps to take when a mindset shift is a must.
1. CHALLENGE YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS
Nearly everyone has limiting beliefs that prevent them from realizing their dreams. Those who challenge and overcome these beliefs go on to achieve their goals. Those who don’t continue to repeat negative patterns – and often don’t even realize it.
As Tony says, it’s not the events of our lives that shape us – it’s our beliefs about what those events mean. Rather than holding on to untrue beliefs, release them. Replace your limiting beliefs with empowering ones, and watch your mindset shift.
Josh and his coach worked together to help him identify his limiting beliefs. Josh realized he had a pattern of returning to familiar, limiting beliefs that were more comfortable, instead of facing opportunities head on.
By conditioning a new set of habits, he was able to reach new levels of success at work and in his personal life. The change was apparent to Josh, who felt more confident and less afraid of failure.
When you challenge the beliefs that hold you back, you’ll see remarkable changes in yourself that lead to an enhanced quality of life.
2. FACE YOUR FEARS
“Some of the biggest things my coach brought to my attention were my belief systems at the time. I was really looking at stuff from a place of fear. When I was taught how to identify that, it’s amazing how my perception changed.” – Josh Iris
Josh was letting his professional and personal life pass him by because he was afraid of failure. When his coach came to him with guidance on this behavior, Josh’s entire life changed: “I realized I was afraid of huge, massive opportunities in disguise. Once I learned how to leave that place of fear, it was amazing to discover the opportunities that were in my face the entire time.”
Fear is a destructive emotion, but Josh didn’t have to accept it, and neither do you. Overcoming your fears is a major step in learning how to change your mindset for success. One of the best ways to get beyond fear is with massive action. When you face fear head-on and take action, you learn what works and grow much faster than when you let fear hold you back.
3. SHIFT YOUR PERSPECTIVE
Learning how to change your mindset can seem overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. Sometimes, all it takes to change your mindset is a small,two-millimeter shift in how you see the world. And that shift starts with a decision about the meaning you give to your experiences. Remember, nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning we give it.
Think about your challenges. Do you see them as obstacles or opportunities to learn and grow? Are you focusing on what you have or what you don’t have?
For Josh, this shift in perspective was a huge win. He says that coaching “wasn’t just necessarily strategies for changing my business, but more about my psychology. What I was doing, what I was thinking, how I was applying meaning to it…I feel that has hugely impacted my business, to the point where it saved my company.” This shift in perspective may seem small but it demonstrates how important these shifts in your perspective are. Just a small shift in Josh’s perspective had massive results in both his business and personal life.
4. WATCH YOUR TRANSFORMATIONAL VOCABULARY
Do you hear negative thoughts when thinking about how to change your mindset? If you do, you might want to watch your “TV”, or “transformational vocabulary”. Changing the words you use has the power to both affect your emotions and change your mindset.
One way to transform your words and work more positive language into your day is through a habit that Tony calls priming. Priming is a way to set the tone and intention for your day long before you meet the obstacles ahead. Developing positive habits like priming and using transformational vocabulary will not only help improve your outlook but will also help build your resilience so you bounce back from setbacks and hardships faster.
5. GET SUPPORT THROUGH COACHING
What else can you do to change your mindset and add more joy in your life? Working with a professional coach is one of the most effective ways to change your mindset. By partnering up with a mentor who has already walked the path to success, and knows the best strategies to execute to reach it, you drastically increase the odds of being successful in life.
The truth is, proximity is power. We tend to play at the same level as the people we spend the most time with. When you surround yourself with people who operate beyond your current level, you feel called to raise your standards and play at a higher level. You learn more, grow more, and become more than you ever thought possible. And your ability to serve and contribute grows too.
Coaching did this for Josh. The people closest to him noticed a major shift in him:
“I’ve had a lot of people notice a difference. I went through some personal challenges, and I’ll be honest, my coach was the main decider on getting me to bounce back so quickly. Those challenges were affecting my business negatively… Actually, two sessions with my coach helped me to realize where I was at emotionally, why I wasn’t so engaged with my business and what I needed to do to fix it.” – Josh Iris
By changing his mindset and redirecting his energy toward achieving goals that mattered, Josh reestablished himself as a thriving, successful businessman and formed deeper connections with the most important people in his life.
CHANGE YOUR MINDSET TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE
The truth is simple – you cannot go the distance with a fixed mindset. If you want to grow and achieve an extraordinary life, you have to shift your mindset, and embrace the growth and change.
Strategies like getting an online coach, being intentional with your vocabulary, shifting your perspective, facing your fears, and silencing your limiting beliefs can all transform your mindset into one that moves you forward. You’ll experience more success, more personal growth, and more fulfillment in life. While this mindset transformation might be challenging, it’s also achievable and within reach for everyone.
Get the help you need today by exploring Tony Robbins’ Results Coaching. Growth, success and happiness are all within your reach – as long as you’re ready to do the work!
