How to find an effective life coach
“If you want to be successful, find someone who has achieved the results you want, copy what they do, and you’ll achieve the same results.” – Tony Robbins
Where are you at in life? Do you want to reach a new level of success, but don’t know how to proceed? Maybe you know you’re in need of a major change, but feel paralyzed by indecision. Working with a professional 1:1 coach can help. With a coach by your side, stay focused and accountable to the goals you set. Plus, get the proven strategies and tools you need to turn your dreams into reality.
Life coaching — what we here refer to as Results Coaching— can be an incredibly powerful tool for achieving your most important goals. For the best results, make sure you’re honest with your coach about your learning style, preferences and personality. The clearer they are on your needs, the better your experience will be. Here are some important qualities the best coaches should have, and what you should look for when finding a life coach that’s right for you.
Synergistic, balanced communication
The ability to accept feedback from your coach and speak honestly and openly with him or her is absolutely essential.
Your coach must be able to confront you as needed yet remain non-judgmental about your choices. They need to call you out in a gentle yet honest way when they see you impeding your own progress. A successful life coach walks the line between trusted confidant and professional consultant, pushing you outside of your comfort zone to the area where real growth happens. You need to be able to open up with your coach, but they need to maintain clear boundaries with you. They’re not there to be your buddy – their mission is to help you reach and even exceed your goals.
As you set out on your quest to discover how to find a life coach, look for someone who possesses excellent listening skills, but they must also be able to formulate meaningful follow-up questions to ensure that you think about your process in the right ways. They are not there to hand you all of the answers; their task is more acute, and it includes helping you explore your problems to find the solutions yourself. As you begin your life coaching journey, make sure to properly assess and identify your communication style. That way, you’re assured to get a coach who has a complementary communication style to your own. If you learn best by listening, for example, make sure you’re paired up with a great talker.
Great life coaches also balance making you feel comfortable with keeping you challenged, and this is largely a matter of personality and style. Your coach should be someone who makes you feel at ease and safe, but not bored or unchallenged by the tasks at hand. Don’t be afraid to follow your instincts in this department, either. If you just don’t feel good about the match, you are probably right in not pursuing that coach to work with. If your initial coach isn’t a good fit, you can always seek out someone whom you’re more compatible with.
What can you expect from finding a life coach?
All good coaches should embody certain qualities. These include, but are not limited to:
- Accountable: Your coach should feel responsible for your success. You should be able to trust your coach to follow up with you in regards to your progress and monitor how well you’ve applied what you learn during your sessions to your real life.
- Strategic thinker: You and your needs are unique, and your coach should be able to help plot a path that addresses your limiting beliefs and the outcomes that you seek to achieve. That’s why our coaches create a personalized plan that uniquely benefits you and your goals, instead of taking a one-size-fits-all approach.
- Good listener: Life coaching is about you, your goals or outcomes and your path toward making them a reality. Only a coach who is willing to listen can truly know and understand you.
- Goal-oriented: It goes without saying that the point of coaching is to achieve lasting change. How do you know whether you’ve accomplished this? The only way to measure your progress is to establish goals — what we refer to as outcomes — so it’s important to have a coach who can help you set the right metrics for success.
- Has high expectations: You are capable of incredible things and your coach should recognize that, otherwise that person will not be able to maximize your potential and guide you towards a truly fulfilling life.
- Always up for a challenge: Achieving change and attaining a state that will allow you to do anything you dream of will put you out of your comfort zone. Your coach should always challenge you to change, to do things that you otherwise would not and to improve. They’ll also know how to provide you with necessary support when times get tough.
Life coaching systems and experiences
Different life coaches use different systems, or methods, to help you meet the outcomes that are most important to you. It’s important to see how successful that system has been and whether the coach is truly following it. For example, all of Tony Robbins’ Results Coaches receive over 250 hours of training on the system that he uses on his own clients and which he has refined over three decades of experience. He created the Results Coach Training Program with proven strategies for success that he’s integrated into his own life, too. You should feel comfortable that the methods your coach uses will take you where you want to be.
There’s often an inclination pair up with a life coach that specializes in certain areas. Maybe you’re trying to revive the passion in your relationship with your partner or maybe you’re looking for help on improving your personal finances. Rather than looking for a coach who fits these specific traits, what’s more important are the experiences your coach has had and their expertise to get you in the right mindset for success. In fact, you want a coach who has a different perspective than you and who can help you see your life from a different point of view, one that could completely transform your life.
Meeting with your potential life coach
Most life coaches offer a free consultation, which allows for you to consider whether the match will work when finding a life coach. This initial session is the time to learn everything you can about your potential life coaching program and mentor. When you first meet, take note about how you feel when you’re talking with them. Observe how they respond to you, their communication style and think about the points they’re making. Are they helping you see things in a new perspective? Are they successfully identifying your strengths and helping you find your top priorities so you can get the results you’re after?
During this meeting, your prospective coach should be able to explain specifically how they work, what they do and what methods they employ in their work. If they’re unable to clearly describe their process or if you feel you’re being told what you want to hear, make sure to ask as many follow-up questions as needed until you feel comfortable. If you still feel uneasy, perhaps veer away from working with that individual. Your life coach should be able to answer your questions in a way that you understand and offer you a clear sense of what kind of progress you can expect over the time you spend working with them.
The bottom line
Finding a life coach who challenges and empowers you takes attention and care, but it’s worth the investment. The right life coach can help you reach and even exceed your biggest dreams and goals. When you consider it in that light, isn’t finding the best life coach for you the least you can do for yourself?