I’ve achieved success – why don’t I feel fulfilled or satisfied?
Feeling unsatisfied after completing a major goal happens to many of us. We’ve been focused so long on this outcome, but when it comes, we find ourselves thinking “is this it?” Instead of feeling fulfilled, feeling joy and excitement, we’ve become blasé. How can that be the norm? Why is it that achievement isn’t enough? How to feel fulfilled?
Here we’ll look into Tony’s two master lessons to live an extraordinary life. The first is mastering the science of achievement, which comes from understanding the three forces of creation. But success is only half the story. To learn how to feel fulfilled, we also cover the art of fulfillment, the critical key for creating lasting happiness.
Mastering the SCIENCE OF ACHIEVEMENT
Think of this as a formula for success. Mastering achievement means that you can take your dreams and make them real. It comes from following the 3 Forces of Creation, not just having an action plan. After all, learning how to feel fulfilled is difficult if you’ve not achieved anything.
Force 1: Focus
In order to make something happen, channel the power of absolute clarity and commitment. Remember that where your focus goes, energy flows. You must have desire and hunger to get started; without that, you won’t have the ability to see the process through to the end.
Force 2: Massive action
Here’s where you start making your moves towards what you want. If your current approach isn’t working, change it. Think about children learning to walk. If they gave up the first time they fell down, none of us would ever learn how to walk at all. Instead, kids keep trying and trying until they’ve figured out walking, then running. No one ever says to kids, “Listen, walking is just too hard. Just give it up, kid.”
The other key to taking massive action is to find a model for effective execution. Take someone who’s achieved what you want — whether walking, earning a billion dollars, or losing weight — and find out how they did it. Role models and mentors help us learn faster and more effectively; follow successful models and we get results weeks, months, even decades more quickly.
Force 3: Grace
We think of this concept in different ways; some call it “God,” others “luck” or “good fortune.” There’s all the things we do to make something happen and the rest, the things we can’t control, but help us along anyway? That’s grace. The more flexible you are, the more you acknowledge grace in your life, the more it shows up. Grace will also help you better understand how you can give back, another secret of sustainable happiness.
Creating a rich and full life
However, achievement only can take you so far. There are plenty of people who are incredibly successful, yet remain unhappy and dissatisfied. It’s like they don’t know how to feel fulfilled, ever. Call it the law of familiarity – the more used to something you become, the less you appreciate it. But your life doesn’t have to stay that way.
Understanding the ART OF FULFILLMENT
To live a rich life, you need more than just winning. You need to live. And living requires fulfillment, not just achievement. Fulfillment comes from finding what makes you happy, what brings you joy.
Tony’s approach to truly understand feeling fulfilled and the art of fulfillment? Trade expectation for appreciation. Instead of expecting something — falling into the trap of familiarity — appreciate that it’s there. On its own your mind won’t make you happy; we’re programmed to find the faults, the failures, not focus on how to feel fulfilled. But choose to take delight in the ordinary, like a smile or the sun on your face, and you become the richest person you know, no matter your bank balance. Even better, you’ll give more to those around you, creating a positive feedback loop of energy. Now when you achieve something, no matter its size, you’ll be able to truly celebrate instead of feeling empty.
Master the science of achievement and the art of fulfillment and you have the tools for a sustainable life of happiness that enriches not only yourself, but those around you.