9 Keys to passion & intimacy
Lock the passion*For sake of brevity, we classify women as representatives of feminine energy and men as representatives of masculine energy. However, we acknowledge and honor that gender and energy are entirely independent, as a female can have a masculine core and a male can have a feminine core.
Edward comes home from a rough day at work. He rants and raves to his wife, Jill, about the issues he has with his co-workers and his boss. Jill listens, and even engages – sharing common sentiments about how frustrating that must be. Edward eventually comes out of his rut and meets Jill at her level.
Jill comes home from a rough day at work. She rants and raves to Edward. Edward however, has a strong inclination to fix her issues. He cuts into her diatribe, interjecting his thoughts on how she can solve her issues. She grows increasingly upset. She yells, saying that he doesn’t “understand” her.
What is happening in each situation? In the first scenario, the feminine energy is high and the masculine energy is low. But the couple is easily able to restore the imbalance. However, in the second scenario, the masculine energy is high and the feminine energy is low, and challenges arise. Why is this? What dynamics are at play? And what sort of shift will allow Jill and Edward to connect with each other?
Here’s the secret. The game of life in a relationship is about mastering two things: your state and your meaning. If you can master those two, it’s a different ballgame. It will change everything. And it all starts with mastering the power of V – venting, that is.
Understanding core differences
Masculine men and feminine women are practically different species.
The feminine force has something no extremely masculine man will ever understand. That is, women experience everything all the time. The reason for this is because the feminine brain has what is called “diffuse awareness” – an instinctual and biological trait instilled in women so they could be entirely aware of their surroundings. As Tony Robbins explains during his Date with Destiny event, it began as a matter of survival, and has evolved into a deep-seeded need for women to talk and share and to uncover what they are feeling. And it manifests in many different ways.
