4 tactics to never settle for less
Look around you – are you living the life you’ve always wanted? Are you actively working toward that life? If not, you’re settling. It may sound harsh, but that’s the honest truth.
The adage to “never settle” is often used in relationships, but it applies to every area of your life. Too many people settle for a job they don’t love, don’t work toward becoming free of financial fear or give up on goals they set for themselves, like exercising more or mastering a new hobby.
Nelson Mandela said it best: “There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”
But where does the motivation to never settle for less come from? And how can you learn to never settle?
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Never settle: Here’s how
Think about who you look up to – in business, in relationships and simply as people. Chances are, they have something that you want, but don’t yet have. They are your inspiration. You can use them to create a vision for your own life. Once you have your vision, put these four strategies into practice and never settle for less than you deserve again.
1. Own your life
Stop blaming your life on your current partner, your boss or your family. Your life is what you make it. Do you really want to spend it making excuses? Don’t take the easy way out and escape to the past or the future. Tony Robbins explains, “If your present is painful, you can escape to the past and get out of the pressure of change. Or you can escape to the future, because no one knows what it is for sure.” These are the destructive belief systems that keep you complacent in that bad job or bad relationship.
Tony also says, “Where focus goes, energy flows” so start focusing on creating positive change in your life. Catch yourself complaining about your job and put that energy toward finding a job you love. Don’t sweep negative emotions about your partner under the rug – focus on working on your relationship, or let it go. Take massive action. It’s the only way to be sure you never settle, and instead live the exceptional life you were meant to live.
2. Nourish your body – and your mind
The next step is to identify your limiting beliefs. These are your beliefs about who you are and why you have the life you do. How often do you tell yourself things like “I’ve always been shy” or “I’m just not great at public speaking”? The worst limiting beliefs are so internalized, we often can’t put them into words. Not feeling worthy of a loving relationship is a very common limiting belief. Sometimes, people are even afraid of success because they don’t want to stand out and give up peer acceptance.
You can turn your limiting beliefs into empowering beliefs. It’s not always easy. It takes self-reflection and thought. But you must acknowledge negative beliefs about your future, your relationship and your health in order to overcome them. When you really analyze limiting beliefs, you’ll be able to start breaking through them.
Controlling your thoughts and words is vital to overcoming limiting beliefs. Catch yourself when you tell the stories that limit you. Eliminate “I can’t” from your vocabulary. When you transform your words, you transform your emotions – and your life.
3. Raise your standards
“If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten,” says Tony. If you tolerate less than you deserve, that is what you will get. You must raise your standards. It sounds simple because it really is that simple. Turn your “shoulds” into “musts,” and those musts will manifest themselves in your life.
As Kevin Hart told Tony in a powerful podcast, he never settles for less in his career because he knows he can be just as successful as anyone else. “If I’m looking at 44 people who are doing amazing things, why aren’t I number 45?” He has absolute certainty and belief in himself.
When you fully commit to something, you have no other options. You must achieve it. Tony says, “It’s having that absolute certainty that makes you tap your full potential, take massive action, get massive results and be reinforced to an even stronger belief.” Once you raise your standards and commit to them, you’ll find the puzzle pieces fall into place.
4. Create habits that make you great
Successful people share certain habits that set them apart. They wake up early to get things done before the rest of us. They read, always looking for new information. They take personal time to meditate, do yoga or just breathe. They have positive attitudes and surround themselves with the right people who reinforce their belief to never settle.
You can set yourself up for success by doing many of these same things. Create morning rituals to set the tone for your day. Taking just a few minutes to practice priming, recite positive incantations or even quickly meditate can make a huge difference in your state.
Successful people visualize their success. It doesn’t just work in business. You can visualize what your ideal relationship looks like. Think about what you need to feel completely fulfilled and loved. Visualization can help you to never settle for less than you deserve in your relationship.
These four strategies are the key to living your life to the fullest and achieving your goals. Dream big, take action and always believe in yourself. And never settle for a life that is less than the exceptional one you’re capable of.
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