Don’t let your story hold you back
Moving forward from a painful past with confidence and certaintyWhy do we have a tendency to hold on to the past? Why do we continue to let the most painful experiences in our lives not only influence, but control our future? And what would life look like if we were able to let go of the past, shed the stories that we carry with us and move forward in a way that is untethered to our pain?
In this episode of the real breakthrough series, we’re diving into a particularly sensitive subject – letting go of past trauma. You’ll hear from JoLynn, a woman who endured tremendous trauma in her past. And for years, decades even, she allowed that pain to dictate her life. She lived in a story of hurt, and she suffered massively because of it.
Date with Destiny
Learn moreThe fear of letting go
Some of you may have endured unspeakable trauma in your lives. Yet as horrific as these experiences were, you may continue to hold on to them, fervently at times. Because letting go can be terrifying.
But holding on has profound consequences of its own. We continue to give the pain power. We keep cords of energy tied to the people that hurt us. We even let these terrible experiences become part of our identity. Instead of choosing to focus on the here-and-now, embracing the gifts of joy and presence, we live in the past in a world of pain.
Most of us don’t realize that we can choose the way we feel and how we see the world. We’re stuck in patterns that we can’t move beyond. We have an “emotional home” that we continue to return to, even when it hurts us.
As Tony Robbins would say, “It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” What will you decide to hold on to? What will you decide to focus on? Your past is not your future unless you live there – so where will you choose to live?
Choosing to change your story
When JoLynn attended Date With Destiny, she was living in the past and filled with pain. She had experienced unthinkable events, and while she thought she had moved on, she realized that she was actually stuck. She says, “I was addicted to my story.” And that story was holding her back.
