How to make the decision to do the impossible
Where do you go from failure? The most successful people in the world have recorded massive failures, and, for many of them, failure was the greatest influence in their ascent to greatness. Why?
It comes down to perspective; failure is only the end if you choose to see it that way.
We all have the power to choose. We can’t control events, but we can choose what to focus on, we can choose what those events mean, and we can choose what to do now. These three decisions control our lives. So it is not the conditions of our lives, but rather the decisions that determine our destiny.
In this episode of the Tony Robbins Podcast, hosts Tony Robbins and Mary Buckheit explore how to shift your focus to being true to yourself, bouncing back from defeat, and embracing who you are.
They speak to their friend and hero, Siri Lindley. A former 2-time ITU World Champion, Siri was recently inducted to the USA Triathlon Hall of Fame. She is a Brown University graduate, and has coached field hockey and lacrosse at Ivy League schools.
In her coaching career, Siri has helped a number of Olympic and Ironman athletes win championships, including Mirinda Carfrae. While we were fascinated by her incredible success, we invited her to the podcast to learn more about her unique life experiences.
In this episode, Siri opens up about fear, suffering, recruiting, training, triathlons, coaching and love. She explains to Tony and Mary how these life challenges ultimately became her greatest gifts.
Siri and Tony help us to understand that to be truly great at anything, you must always start with yourself.
[00:00] Tony Robbins on hunger, drive, and emotional strength
[05:30] Introduction to Mary B
[06:00] An introduction to Siri Lindley
[11:20] The allure of a triathlon
[11:40] Team sports vs. individual competition
[12:20] Starting out (“I couldn’t swim.”)
[13:28] Siri’s first triathlon (“I was a disaster”)
[16:30] Failure either destroys you or drives you
[17:50] Where does the hunger comes from?
[19:00] Desperate to feel good; wanting to like herself
[20:00] Keeping the fear at bay
[22:00] From “crappy” to World No. 1
[24:00] Lesson: “You as a human being are far more important than you as an athlete”
[25:15] Coach Brett Sutton gets into the mind of the athlete
[26:00] Olympic trials 2000
[28:00] No excuses: “I choked.”
[29:55] “Impossible” training in Switzerland
[30:50] Tony on Wantrepreneur vs. Entrepreneur
[31:45] Training in Converse and travel clothes…in the Alps
[34:00] “Jane supposedly sucks”…and she kicked my butt
[35:50] Mom: “If you can’t hack it, come home.”
[36:20] Everyday he was scaring me to death. It was brilliant.
[37:20] Tony: “A belief is a poor substitute for experience … your coach gave you an experience.”
[38:12] Champion mentality, self-sabotage, bad patterns, doubt, commitment
[39:11] TR on the psychology of extraordinary athletes
[39:35] Recruitment: “I saw the angel in the marble and I carved until I set it free.”
[40:25] Why failure can actually set you up for success
[41:15] Tony Robbins on facing your fears and the analogy of sports
[42:25] Why recruit 42nd place?
[43:08] Be better than you were yesterday
[43:54] Appreciation for the everyday
[46:00] A manager’s right to be picky
[46:25] Tony Robbins: I hate the term self-esteem; the only way to get inner pride is to earn it
[47:00] Coach John Wooden’s definition of victory
[48:45] We alone are the creators of our life
[49:05] Mary B: Accountability, junk miles, purpose, and the human factor
[50:13] Tony Robbins on humility and the human factor
[51:07] Siri’s ultimate fulfillment, and reading Tony’s books
[51:44] Life after competition
[52:35] I could have retired after I won my first world championship…but I didn’t want to be a fluke
[53:02] An athlete puts their dream into a coach’s hands
[54:45] As an athlete, I hadn’t accepted who I was fully…I came out after I retired from the sport
[55:10] Siri falls in love
[56:00] “Love messes with anything you’ve learned before.”
[58:30] Siri Lindley and Rebekah Keat
[59:25] Taking care of myself makes me a better coach
[1:00:45] What makes Siri’s life story the classic fairytale
[1:02:10] Siri’s gratitude
[1:03:25] Siri’s advice: Be brave. Be relentless. Look how far you’ve come.
[1:05:21] The gap between where you are and where you want to be
[1:06:27] The Science of Achievement vs. The Art of Fulfillment
[1:08:18] The female college athletes curse…now what?
[1:09:13] USA Lacrosse cut/extreme disappointment
[1:10:23] There’s nothing worse than starting something and not finishing
[1:11:30] We all find our path
[1:12:06] How a sponsorship changed her life’s direction
[1:15:36] Basing a life’s identity on others’ expectations
[1:17:15] The world champion had no sponsors
[1:17:58] The lasting effect of an image you’re not
[1:18:42] The ultimate success: being who you really are
[1:19:20] Mary B on coming out and limiting beliefs
[1:20:30] Being true to who you are allows you to give all of yourself to others
[1:21:20] The Ellen Degeneres effect
[1:23:35] Unleash the power within
[1:24:40] Tony: “It’s hard to love yourself when you’re not being yourself”
[1:25:00] Freeing yourself of limitations can rejuvenate and revitalize you
[1:28:15] Tony’s goodbye
[1:30:33] Unleash The Power Within 2016: San Jose (November 10-13)
The mindset of a champion – Why the science of achievement and the art of fulfillment stand at the core of any great champion.
How to use fear before it uses you – Fear is a part of life, but it can serve a valuable purpose, helping you break through your limitations to achieve the life you’ve always wanted.
Keeping pace with Mirinda Carfrae – Three-time Ironman World Champion, Mirinda Carfrae, discusses motivation, strategy and what makes her mental game work for her.