How to overcome insecurity
Overcoming insecurity is a challenge each and every one of us must face, particularly when we are tasked with running a business. In business, relationships and all of life, many of us struggle with self-doubt as we question our skills and abilities. Meanwhile, if we don’t learn how to overcome insecurity, the fallout can wreak havoc on our work performance and overall well-being, since insecurity breeds a negative state. Instead of allowing insecurity to take over your sense of self-confidence, you must learn to face your fears directly, including your self-doubt. When you commit to embracing insecurity as a source of information, it becomes a transformative force for your professional relationships and business operations.
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Overcoming insecurity: Key concepts
In order to understand how to overcome insecurity, one must begin with a working understanding of what causes self-doubt. Psychology Today determined the three most common causes of insecurity: Recent failure, social anxiety and perfectionism. Research suggests that as much as 40% of our happiness in life derives from our interpretation of recent life events or circumstances. As a result, when we fail at achieving a goal, the resultant blow to our self-esteem is often substantial. Furthermore, if feelings of failure remain unresolved, they begin to taint our perception of other life problems, creating a cycle of feeling defeated. Such feelings are easily exacerbated by social difficulties we may experience due to shyness, rejection or other factors. Then, if perfectionism is an issue, the effect is like throwing gasoline on a fire. Our perfectionism drives our self-criticism, which further deflates our self-esteem, alienates us from others and creates a no-win cycle of insecurity. When insecurity-inducing factors cascade at the workplace, the result can be catastrophic for our lived experience on the job as well as our team’s morale. Therefore, it is absolutely critical that we take massive action for overcoming insecurity.
How to overcome insecurity: Practical strategies
One of the most pivotal components of overcoming insecurity is understanding that, as with all of life’s unpleasantries, it’s human nature to attempt avoidance. That is, since problems feel uncomfortable, we are far more likely to ignore the problem, hoping it will self-resolve, than we are to do the proactive work necessary for getting over insecurity. In this manner, mastering how to overcome insecurity as it relates to your professional life is akin to stepping into the pain of nurturing your personal relationships when the going gets tough. Rather than allow the problem to fester, you must acknowledge areas that need changing and implement those changes.
Getting over insecurity by learning to trust yourself
Even as you commit to overcoming insecurity, give yourself permission to feel insecure. The idea behind facing your fears isn’t to control everything you say, do and feel. Rather, the purpose is to grow stronger from facing your fears instead of hiding in your comfort zone. You must recognize the fact that, even with your insecurities, the safest space is inside you, since that is where your inner strength is hidden away.
How to overcome insecurity by committing to learning from your fears
As overwhelming as overcoming insecurity can seem, it’s actually the commitment to facing our fears that builds courage. Instead of feeling like a failure just because we have insecurities, in committing to change, we gain the freedom to view those insecurities as a source of information for our personal and professional growth. Instead of avoiding our insecurities, we learn to ask, “Are my insecurities based in facts, or do they reflect areas of personal growth I need to address?” As you commit yourself to putting aside your fears and utilizing your insecurity as a source of valuable information, you eliminate the “what ifs” associate with avoidance and open the door to opportunity. As Tony Robbins says, you must go to war with your fear and, instead of fighting the darkness, turn on the light to add value to your business.
Overcoming insecurity by balancing your perspective
As you commit to overcoming insecurity by trusting yourself and committing to facing your fears, you’ll discover the importance of balancing your perspective. To balance your outlook, you must both acknowledge your feelings and check them against concrete facts. In other words, without sacrificing your emotional honesty, cultivate the habit of “focusing outwards” on the practical realities of your job.
Consider a professional basketball player who is struggling with uncertainty: They must not only acknowledge the uncertainty and commit to investigating it, but also commit to mastering the practical skills necessary to excel at basketball. As a business owner, the parallel is resonant, since focusing on the “externals” of your day-to-day work life will distract you from your insecurities while you build a skillset the reflects your true aptitude.
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