What are your subconscious patterns?

There is one universal experience that creates the foundation for our individual models of the world. It influences the way we think, the way we act and the way we process information. It is what builds our subconscious patterns.

In this episode we meet Akila. Akila has been struggling with her view of the world and the way she reacts to outside pressures. She doesn’t know how to achieve the happy and extraordinary life she is dreaming of. Here, Tony coaches her in real time during a Date With Destiny event toward a life-changing breakthrough.

Tony starts by asking her the most important question: whose love did you crave as a child? And what did you have to do, and who did you have to be, to feel deserving of that love?

This is the craving that shapes who we are – it’s foundational. And when we answer these questions, we begin to uncover our subconscious patterns.

Akila craved her mother’s love the most, and believed she had to appear perfect to deserve that love. This laid the groundwork for Akila to strive for perfection in every other aspect of her life, not just in her drive for her mother’s love.

The problem is that perfection is the lowest standard a person can have. It is a false standard – one that doesn’t exist. Since Akila has been striving for perfection, she’s been striving for an unrealistic ideal that she can never reach – and ends up incredibly unfulfilled.

As demonstrated by Akila’s story, her inability to live a fulfilled life is tied directly to her craving for her mother’s love as a child. Her craving laid the groundwork for her limiting subconscious patterns.

When you answer those questions yourself, you will gain a deeper understanding of how your identity and your subconscious patterns were shaped.

When you understand the force behind your subconscious patterns, you gain perspective on what your needs are and what’s most important for you to feel fulfilled. This clarity will enable you to live the happy and successful life you’ve always wanted.