Taking a more active approach to designing your life
Are you living the life you’ve always wanted to? Or have you settled into the status quo?
Most of us have a subconscious idea of what we think we deserve. And when life does not represent what we think it should be like, we experience frustration and discontent, which can spur us into action to make change.
But this can work in reverse as well. So many of us end up sabotaging our success. What happens is, we start thinking that we deserve better, and we drop right back down to where we think we should be – in our careers, our finances, our relationships, our health, our general sense of well-being.
What if you took active control of your mind and redirected your focus on making your life a masterpiece? What if you reprogram the way you think to design a life that gives you fulfillment, joy and passion?
Your mind is the key to success. And if you want to live the life you desire, then it’s time to decide, to commit and to resolve. Because it’s not what we can do in life that makes a difference, it’s what we will do. And there’s no better time to take back control of your mind and set your sights on something better right now.
Watch how Tony explains this force to two friends, using basketball as an example.
What is your desired outcome? What do you want out of your life? The first step is to get absolutely crystal clear about what you want. Clarity is power. The more precise you are, the stronger your vision will be, and the more you empower your brain to come up with ways to turn that vision into reality.
This is a step you can start to use immediately. For example, if you are in an argument with your partner, your run the risk of escalating that argument if you are just focusing on winning. But what if you stopped in the middle of the argument and asked yourself what the desired outcome is? You would see that your outcome isn’t to argue and cause dissension, but to find resolution. This would help you shift your focus towards resolution. And you’d empower your brain to use its resources to produce that outcome in that moment.
So it’s time to decide what you want – right now and in the future – and to get laser focused on it. Give your brain direction. What do you want physically, financially, emotionally, spiritually, in your business, and in your personal life? Make the decision that you are not willing to settle, that you are not willing to live the way you are living right now, and set your sights on what you want.
Now it’s time to rid your mind of fear and self-doubt. How do you do that? By cutting off from any other possibility so that you have no choice but to commit to your decision.
Fear is one of the biggest traps that keeps people from taking action. Fear of rejection, fear of failure, success, rejection, pain, the unknown – we all have fears. And the only way to deal with fear is to face it. You must face it head on, look at it eye to eye and take action in spite of it.
Scared of failing? Failure is an education. Look at it this way, if you fail, you will know what doesn’t work. And you’ll be able to take a more educated, informed approach when you try again. You’re better off than where you were before!
Most people just sit around and will never take real action on their dreams or goals. They just keep saying, “Someday, I’ll do [this or that].” But the road to someday leads to a town in nowhere.
Breaking through negative chatter is like a muscle. At first, when you try to do it, it will seem difficult and perhaps even taxing. But if you start small and try it again every day, you will gradually become stronger. And before long, it will become effortless.
Commit to yourself. Commit to overcoming the negativity. Commit to a better life. When you commit fully, cutting off any other possibility, you are going to push yourself to the next level and you are going to demand more of yourself than anyone else could ever expect. And that is true power.
Once you have decided on your path and committed fully, you need to take inventory of your situation. Notice what you are getting from your current actions and direct your mind towards assessing what is working and what isn’t. And then make the shifts. Resolve is about finding solutions to whatever may come your way.
A critical part of finding resolve is flexibility. Flexibility is power. When you get locked in tunnel vision, you will miss out on unexpected opportunities and alternative routes that could provide incredible benefits. Remember, you are never 100% in control. Think about it: has your life gone according to plan? Probably not. The path is never a straight line. And that’s why it’s vital to remain flexible along the way – learning from mistakes, embracing failure, and using negativity as a driving force for change.
By reprogramming your mind to focus on resolve, you can change your approach as required to attain the outcome no matter what obstacles, hurdles or circumstances come your way. Imagine that! That no matter what you encounter, you are conditioned for success. Frustration becomes a gift, because it means you are on the verge of a breakthrough. Failure is a lesson, counseling you on how to be better in the future. Any hurdle, emotional, physical or mental, becomes an opportunity for you to pivot and find a new creative solution. That is the power of your mind’s dedication to resolve.
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