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How to reprogram your mind

Taking a more active approach to designing your life

Are you living the life you’ve always wanted to? Or have you settled into the status quo?

Most of us have a vague idea of what we think we deserve. When life veers away from that path we have quietly set for it, we often become frustrated and upset. “Why is this happening?” we wonder. This discontent can be powerful; it can spur us into make change.

But discontent is a double-edged sword. So many of us end up turning our frustration and upset against ourselves, sabotaging any potential success. We start thinking that we deserve better, and we may work a little harder for a few days, but rather than take action and strive for lasting change, we drop right back down to where we think we should be – in our careers, our finances, our relationships, our health, our general sense of well-being.

What if you took active control of your mind and redirected your focus on making your life a masterpiece? What if you reprogram your mind to design a life that gives you fulfillment, joy and passion?

Your mind is the key to success. And if you want to live the life you desire, then it’s time to decide, to commit and to resolve. It’s not what we can do in life that makes a difference – it’s what we will do. And there’s no better time to take back control of your mind and set your sights on something better right now.

Watch how Tony explains how to reprogram your mind to two friends, using basketball as an example.


The first step you need to take is to gain absolute clarity on what it is you want. What is your desired outcome? What do you want out of your life? Clarity is power. The more thought you put into this, the more detail you lay out, the stronger and more powerful your vision will become. This creates a subconscious map in your mind, giving your brain the tools necessary to turn that vision into reality.

Want to learn how to reprogram your subconscious mind? Consider an argument with your partner. When in a heated exchange with a loved one, we often lose track of the disagreement itself and focus on being heard – on getting the last word, on winning. That’s a quick way to escalate the argument into something much worse. Instead, stop yourself and ask, “Why am I arguing in the first place? You aren’t fighting to fight; you are disagreeing about something and want a resolution. When you are distracted by winning, you lose track of the actual problem. Once you remember that, you can shift your focus back to resolving the original problem, effectively reprogramming the mind to use its resources and produce that outcome in that moment.

So it’s time to decide what you want – right now and in the future – and to focus on it. Give your brain direction. What do you want physically, financially, emotionally, spiritually, in your business and in your personal life? Make the decision that you are not willing to settle and that you are not willing to live the way you are living right now. Set your sights on what you want.


Now it’s time to rid your mind of fear and self-doubt. How do you do that? By committing to it and letting it motivate you.

Fear is one of the biggest traps that keeps people from taking action. We all have fears – fear of rejection, fear of failure, success, pain, the unknown. If you do nothing, that fear will remain exactly where it is, blocking your path. You will not move. You might not do any worse, but you also won’t do better. And that fear will always be present in the back of your mind, pushing you away from your goals. The lack of action gives the negativity time to poison your thoughts: “It’s a good thing I didn’t try. I never would have made it.” This fear-based negativity, when allowed to spread, will seep into everything you think about yourself, as well as everything you do.

The only way to deal with fear is to face it early on. You must look at it eye to eye and take action in spite of it. Are you afraid of failure? Look at it this way: Failure is an education. If you do something and fail, you will know what doesn’t work. And you’ll be able to take a more educated, informed approach when you try again. You’re better off than where you were before!

Reprogramming the mind means breaking through negative chatter like “I can’t.” Think of it the same way you would build muscle at the gym. At first, it will seem difficult and perhaps even taxing. But if you start small and try it again every day, you will gradually become stronger. And before long, it will become effortless.

Commit to yourself. Commit to overcoming the negativity. Commit to a better life. When you commit fully, cutting off any other possibility, you will push yourself to the next level and demand more of yourself than anyone else could ever expect. And that is true power.


Once you have decided on your path and committed fully, take inventory of your situation. What are your current actions getting you? Direct your mind toward assessing what is working and what isn’t. Make the shifts. Resolve is about finding solutions to whatever may come your way.

A critical part of finding resolve is flexibility. Tunnel vision forces limits on you – you will miss out on opportunities and alternative routes that could lead to incredible benefits. Remember, you are never 100% in control. Think about it: has your life gone according to plan? Probably not. The path you take is never a straight line. And that’s why it’s vital to remain flexible along the way – learning from mistakes, embracing failure and using negativity as a driving force for change.

By reprogramming your mind to focus on resolve, you develop the ability to change your approach to problems as required. Not all obstacles, hurdles or circumstances are the same; each poses its own difficulties, and you can meet those difficulties head-on. True power comes from within, and reprogramming the subconscious mind conditions you for success. Frustration becomes a gift, because it means you are on the verge of a breakthrough. Failure becomes a lesson, counseling you on how to be better in the future. Any roadblock becomes an opportunity for you to pivot and find a new creative solution. That is the power of your mind’s dedication to resolve.

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