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Say “no” to New Year’s resolutions
80% of New Year's resolutions fail by February – set goals instead
New Year’s Eve has become more than just a holiday for many of us. We look at New Year’s Eve as not only a celebration of the year, but a chance for a fresh start – that’s why we create resolutions. Some people resolve to focus more on their health, while others vow to make strides in their career. Although we go into the new year with the best of intentions to make good on these goals, it doesn’t take long for many people to give up on their New Year’s resolution or to forget about it entirely.
If you’re looking to make a change in your life, why does it feel so difficult to stay focused? What is the point of New Year’s resolutions if they don’t last? Should you make New Year’s resolutions if they don’t stick? The answer might surprise you. New Year’s resolutions may come about once a year, but how you make and follow through on the outcomes you want says something about your goal-setting process. Setting no New Year’s resolutions is actually the most reliable way to achieve your goals for the upcoming year.
Should you make New Year’s resolutions?
Why are you choosing your New Year’s resolutions? How many times have you made them, and which of your resolutions have you actually achieved? Many New Year’s resolutions fail because we’re merely looking for a new experience instead of real change. It’s easy to say you’d like to have a better love life with your partner, but what are you really committed to doing in order to make that resolution a reality? Are you actually just wanting to go on more date nights, or do you truly want to create a deeper, more meaningful bond?
We often make resolutions in the spirit of celebration, with no real thought into what it will take to achieve them. Then, a few weeks or months into the new year, we give up, asking ourselves, “What is the point of New Year’s resolutions anyway?” Then we feel terrible about our lack of progress, and might turn to even worse behavior.
New Year’s resolutions vs. goals
Should you make New Year’s resolutions? Before you answer that, realize the difference between a resolution and a goal. A resolution is a decision to (not) do a specific behavior, like eating ice cream before bed. A goal is a series of calculated steps designed to help you achieve the resolution, like starting a mindfulness meditation practice at bedtime. By this definition, it may be more straightforward to think of goals as the planned-out process of achieving your resolution. By setting goals, you’re differentiating your desired outcome from the steps you must take to accomplish it.
So, what is the point of New Year’s resolutions? By establishing objectives, resolutions create an end result to center your goal-making on. It all comes back to the way you set goals. Goals, not resolutions, are the key to long-term growth and success. And the secret to setting compelling goals is knowing why it is you want what you want – finding purpose and meaning in your goals.
Creating compelling goals will help you stay inspired, even when times get tough. What resolutions are you considering? Whether it’s to grow professionally or get in a better state of health, you’ll have a hard time succeeding unless you create a truly compelling goal.
No New Year’s resolutions are the best resolutions
No New Year’s resolutions are possible without a strategy for achieving them. Resolutions, like goals, become more attainable when you streamline your goal-setting process. When you’re having trouble reaching your resolutions, you need a way to achieve your goals no matter what. Instead of hardened resolve, you need a plan. Here’s how to replace resolutions with objectives that work.
1. Decide and commit to making a change
No New Year’s resolutions come easily. You won’t succeed unless you’re willing to change your lifestyle. All the trendy resolutions in the world won’t work for you unless you’re in the mindset of creating a true change. Make the decision now that you’re going to change some aspect of your life, and then commit to making it happen.
2. Document what you want
Should you make New Year’s resolutions? Instead of merely resolving to change a behavior, write down your goal! Not on a computer, but on paper or in a journal. Writing something down in a physical notebook can help you remember it better later on. Getting crystal clear on what you want and having it documented is the best way to get in the right state to achieve your goals. You’ll be able to truly hone in on your goal once you see it in front of you.
3. Get clear on the WHY
Your New Year’s resolution might be to get a promotion at work, but why? Do you want to learn more about your field? Do you ultimately want to make more money so you can better provide for your family, or save more so that you can achieve financial freedom? Understand not just the short-term outcome you want, but the true purpose of your goal. When you understand why you want your goal, you will find a way to achieve it – even when things get challenging. With no New Year’s resolutions to create performance anxiety, you’re free to make incremental changes that cumulate in achieving your goal.
4. Find absolute certainty and take action
It’s okay to have no idea how you are going to accomplish your goal when you’re first starting out. But regardless of how far along you are in your plan to achieve your goal, you must operate from a mindset of absolute belief and faith that you can accomplish it. That’s the key to success: even when you set goals strategically, no New Year’s resolutions are achievable without dedication. In your mind, if you have no choice but to succeed – if achieving your goal becomes an absolute must – then nothing else matters. You’ll do whatever it takes to get there: Sacrifices won’t even be a question, and all excuses will go out the window.
5. Measure your progress
Should you make New Year’s resolutions if you can’t measure your success? No – specificity and tracking your progress is key to success. If your New Year’s resolution is to be healthier, how will you measure it? Is it making a certain number of meals at home each week instead of eating out? Is it walking three miles every day? Set a reasonable timeline for your goals, and measure your progress along the way.
6. Keep going
As you move forward on your journey, know that there will be challenging times. What is the point of New Year’s resolutions if they don’t help you develop perseverance? When faced with a setback, or if you feel that you’ve failed completely, don’t give up. Move forward and ask yourself, What will it cost me if I don’t accomplish this goal? Am I missing out on an incredible career opportunity, will I disappoint my children or miss out on living the life that I want?
“I don’t have a New Year’s resolution”: The beauty of incremental progress
“I don’t have a New Year’s resolution, and I’m making more progress now than ever.” When you have no New Year’s resolutions, you’re free to enjoy the process over the outcomes. You’re able to see the forest from the trees as you make incremental progress. Small steps become enjoyable, since you’re not burdened with a perfectionistic outcome far on the horizon. By forsaking resolutions, you’re operating out of a can-do mindset instead of brow-beating yourself for your shortcomings.
There are many tips for keeping New Year’s resolutions, but the main one is this: Don’t merely tie goals to the new year because everyone else is doing it. Real change comes when you know your outcome and commit to making your goals a reality. Learning to set and achieve goals is a great habit that few truly master in their lifetimes. Get everything you want this year, and every year, by deciding to set and achieve goals that truly matter to you.
Starting your year with no New Year’s resolutions can be a liberating experience of getting what you really want. Discover your passions and overcome obstacles with Tony Robbins’ Ultimate Edge, your playbook for success.