Stop living in fear of being hurt

For almost 40 years, Tony has been obsessed with learning the answer to what makes a difference in the quality of people’s lives. And he’s worked with more than 50 million people from every walk of life – from some of the world’s most powerful leaders to individuals who have struggled to overcome dire circumstances.

Tony doesn’t teach people just to solve their problems, he helps them solve what caused the problems in the first place – digging into their fundamental beliefs, values and goals. Because that’s where the breakthrough happens.

In this episode, you are going to hear Tony work with Aly. When she attended Date With Destiny, Aly was in pain. She was stuck in negative patterns, never questioning her beliefs. And she had a major fear of being cheated on. For a lifetime, Aly was fed toxic thoughts from her mother – thoughts she allowed to control her life until she had a major breakthrough with Tony.

Asking the right questions

Aly has struggled with intimacy, and has moved from relationship to relationship, encountering the same problems. Her toxic upbringing had turned into negative self-talk, a common issue. When we’re made to feel like we’re not good enough by those whose love we crave most, we internalize those thoughts.

Tony works with Aly to answer her fundamentally unquestioned thoughts – why she believes certain things, why she expects certain things and why she behaves in certain ways. She is terrified of being cheated on, and won’t let herself get close to a man. She doesn’t know how to communicate effectively. But she also knows that, as Tony says, “Life is more beautiful when it’s shared.”

Tony helps Aly to see that her suffering doesn’t just come from the past – it comes from her choice to allow certain beliefs to guide her life. And that if she wants to shift out of pain and loneliness, it’s time to let go of those old thoughts, work on loving herself and stop living in fear.