How to find peace of mind

Letting go of the past and forgiving are difficult for many of us, especially when our trust has been betrayed. In the two-part podcast featuring award-winning psychologists and authors Dr. Gerald Jampolsky and his partner, Dr. Diane Cirincione, Tony and his guests talk about being the master of your own emotions, understanding that all responses are based on love or fear and how forgiveness is the biggest gift we can give another person.

If you missed it, listen to part one of the podcast to learn how to heal old wounds, let go of the past and be gentle with your partner. In part two, they discuss how our past experiences affect our current belief systems – and how to find peace of mind and happiness by shifting our focus so that we can wake up to the gifts of life and experience love, gratitude and harmony.

Changing our belief systems

Forgiveness and guilt go hand in hand, and Diane discusses how guilt is the result of clinging to an old belief system. These belief systems served us at one point, but if we continue to hold onto them, they lead to limiting beliefs that prevent us from letting go and moving on. When we see that our old systems no longer have value, it’s easier to change them and develop healthier beliefs that empower us.

Diane shares an impactful realization that changed how she thought and behaved. Instead of having multiple goals, she focused on one goal: to have peace of mind. Every other goal turned into an intention. This allowed her to avoid dangerous expectations and no longer get attached to the outcomes of situations. When you learn to embrace uncertainty in the moment with the sole purpose of being at peace with it, it transforms your life. “I’m no longer living in the ultimate outcome and missing the everyday experience of living,” Diane says.

Perception vs. reality